
YOU LEFT RELIGION.
Now You’re Wondering Who You Are.
Spiritual Direction coaching for women untangling religious programming and rebuilding a life that’s actually their own.
Book a Session →So, What Exactly is Spiritual Direction?
Spiritual direction coaching is your space to untangle what no longer fits, and remember what’s always been true.

Inclusive
A non-judgmental environment where all parts of you are welcome.

Exploratory
Self-discovery exploration, free from rigid dogma or expectations.

Supportive
A safe, compassionate space where you’re met with empathy.
In each session, you are invited to:
- Grieve what was
- Question everything (without shame)
- Reconnect with your inner voice
- Begin rebuilding trust—in yourself, your body, your path
Whether you’re feeling lost, angry, numb, or full of questions—you’re welcome here. You don’t need a new belief system. You just need a space that’s finally safe enough to listen to yourself.
Hi there, I’m Cara!
I wasn’t raised in the Church, but I found my way into Evangelicalism at age 11, searching for belonging. And I found it—for a while. I became the ultimate “religious good girl”: purity ring, daily devotionals, on fire for God.
I went on to become a youth pastor, earned my master’s in Soul Care, and even trained as a spiritual director while still fully immersed in the church.
But along the way, the cracks started to show.
During grad school, I wrote a paper on the inerrancy of the Bible—and by the end of it, I realized I no longer believed what I was supposed to. At 27, I walked away from the church, my community, and the identity I had built my life around.
The years that followed were filled with grief, disorientation, and deep unlearning. I had to re-parent myself spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. I used the tools I was trained in—not to fix others—but to finally care for me.
Now, nearly two decades later, I offer spiritual direction to women on a similar path—those untangling religious programming and rebuilding a life that’s actually their own.
If you’re walking through the messy middle, feeling both free and lost, I want you to know:
You’re not too much. You’re not too late. And you’re not alone.
Is Spiritual Direction Right For You?
This is FOR you if:
✔️You’ve left a high-control or high-demand religion and are now wondering: Who am I without it?
✔️You’re caught between grief, anger, confusion, and relief—and don’t have many safe places to say it out loud
✔️You long to trust yourself again, but second-guess every instinct
✔️You want to explore your spirituality (or the loss of it) without being told what to believe
✔️You’re tired of doing this alone
This is NOT for you if:
❌ You’re looking for traditional therapy or counseling to work through trauma or mental health concerns (while I can offer support, I don't diagnose or treat trauma directly).
❌ You’re seeking rigid answers or specific religious doctrines (I offer guidance to help you find your own truth, not a pre-packaged set of beliefs).
❌You want a quick fix—spiritual direction is about a deeper, more ongoing process of reconnection and growth, not an instant solution.
Ready to Work Together?
🫶🏼 50-minute 1:1 Spiritual Direction Sessions
đź’¸ $125 single session | 4-session bundle: $400 (save $100)
📍 Held on Zoom | Private and confidential
(You'll receive booking instructions + payment info immediately after scheduling.)
I’m not even sure what I believe anymore. Is this still for me?
Is this going to feel too "woo" or spiritual?
How is this different from therapy?
What happens during a session?
Is this faith-based?
Will I have to share hard things?
What if I’m not sure I can afford it?
👩🏼‍🎓M.A. Certified Spiritual Director
I holds a Master's degree in Soul Care from an accredited private University (since 2007), and am clinically trained to guide you through your faith transition.
👋🏽19 Years Out of Evangelicalism
Nearly two decades have passed since I've left the Church, giving me ample time and space to unlearn old religious programming and rebuild my own life.

⌛3000+ Coaching Hours
I am the co-founder of Happy Whole Way, where I've had six years of a private 1:1 practice and have co-facilitated 19 group coaching cohorts at Happy Whole U.
📝Clinically Supervised
I am committed to maintaining high ethical standards and providing professional, responsible care, which is why I regularly meet for clinical supervision.
"I’ve gone through therapy before, but...
...these sessions with Cara really felt like the missing puzzle piece to recognize that I am not inherently sinful or broken, and I can trust myself. I now have a toolkit from which to pull when shame comes knocking or I start to veer from who I truly am. I’m showing up for myself in authentic and loving ways that feel so life-giving."
-Kristen, former client
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I’m truly grateful for the trust you’ve placed in me on this journey. I’m excited to work with you and support you every step of the way!

