Essentially, fear is an emotion that gives us the red flag warning that we’ve been trying to control our lives in some way (or that we think we are completely powerless) and that illusion for control is no longer working. Fear asks us to shift our beliefs of trusting the things outside of ourselves and gently bring that focus back within. It’s telling us that we’ve been looking to the wrong thing to find safety, security, an acceptance.
Instead of pausing, we tend to jump right into the fight, flight, or freeze response, causing panic and desperation. So how can we better deal with our fears? The goal is to pause when you’re feeling fear and ask yourself, “What is the false belief in this?” “What do I deeply believe about this?” And sit with what you find. Allow every emotion to be a messenger, leading you to deeper truths about yourself. Use one of these 6 mantras when dealing with fear as a means to simply listen to the message and not become it:
Mantra 1|6: “I am doing the best that I can (and that is enough).”
Mantra 2|6: “It is safe for me to live my life with joy and peace.”
Mantra 3|6: “My fears will not hold me back from living my life.”
Mantra 4|6: “I am willing to release my need for control.”
Mantra 5|6: “I can relax knowing that everything is going to be okay.”
Mantra 6|6: “I can handle whatever comes my way.”
To make these mantras more powerful, identify where fear shows up on your body. Is it in your stomach, your shoulders, the top of your head? Wherever your body FEELS that fear, place your hands there. Take a deep breath in and as you exhale, repeat the mantra of your choice. Allow the words to really sink in vs. just saying a string of words. Act as if you are speaking directly to that body part. Repeat as often as you need.