Think of all the ways our culture + society have conditioned us to believe that we are not good enough just as we are. It tells us to buy this product, change our bodies, listen to this self help book, get more followers on social media, get rid of the “bad” + unacceptable parts of ourselves in order to be happy in life. We are bombarded with those messages on a daily basis, whether we are aware or not. And what those messages inadvertently do is teach us how to resist ourselves on a daily basis. We have been programmed to blame ourselves if we can’t get happy and believe it must be something to fix. So we live this fantasy life of living in the past or future, unable to fully be present in the now, unable to be present with ourselves. We love the idea of self acceptance but what we’ve been taught creates this conflict within.
5 Mantras for Self Acceptance:
1|5: My worth does not stem from what I look like or what I do.
2|5: I deserve to be gentle on myself.
3|5: I am learning to see the good in all parts of me (even the “smelly” stuff).
4|5: I am learning to accept myself just as I am.
5|5: I have enough. I do enough. I am enough.
The first step to self acceptance is seeing all the ways in which we have been conditioned to find our happiness in things + others; and how it is this conditioning that has taught us to resist ourselves. This is a process of undoing. Becoming happy means stripping away not adding. Dropping the conditioning we have been taught to believe as truth. And once we can clearly see the Lie, we can then begin to free ourselves up to being more present with ourselves. We find that through self acceptance (the way it is right in this moment) is where we learn how to become friends with ourselves finally. And that is where the true freedom is.