Helping You Rebuild Your Life After Religion
So, you left your faith. Now what?
Join the 1000s of women on the same path who have questioned everything, untangled their beliefs, and are living a life that finally feels like theirs.
You don't have to do this alone.
How We Can Help →NOT SURE WHERE TO START?
Real support. No fluff.
Happy Mail is our weekly email full of nervous system tools, thought-provoking prompts, and reminders that you’re not crazy, broken, or alone. We don’t preach. We don’t fix. We walk with you as you find your way back home to yourself.
We'd Love to Partner With You!
There’s no one-size-fits-all path to healing religious harm. That’s why we offer three ways to work with us—whether you want to go slow and solo, build deep community, or dive all the way in.
Happy Whole U
This isn’t just an online coaching program—it’s a complete reclamation of who you are. Expect in-depth videos that finally speak your language, real-time community, practices that don’t bypass your pain, but walk you through it. All within a safe and supportive sisterhood.
Summer Retreat
For the woman who’s ready for more than a computer screen. This long weekend immersion is where the real magic happens: exploring the course material in real life through healing fireside chats, belly laughs, and soul-deep connections. Come home changed this summer.
1:1 Coaching
You deserve sacred space to unravel and rebuild—with someone who’s lived it. Cara’s private coaching for anyone figuring out life after religion is a place where all parts of you are are welcome, your emotions are held, and your truth gets to be explored.
Hi, We're
Cara + Rachael. Â
We left religion and found ourselves. Now we help other women do the same.
We used to be youth pastors. Then we deconstructed everything we once believed, walked through fire, and came out on the other side softer, freer, and more ourselves than ever.
Now we’ve turned that journey into Happy Whole Way: a space for women like you to heal, rebuild, and remember who you’ve always been underneath the rules, fear, and shame.
We’ve coached thousands of women through deconstruction and reconstruction. We’re trained spiritual directors and real-deal friends.
And we know the way forward doesn’t come from another guru—it comes from inside you.
What Clients Are Saying →“Rachael and Cara are the best duo and allow for a totally inclusive, non-judgmental, learning environment.”
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-Rosalyn, Fall 2020
How We're Different
Coming home to yourself requires new language.
You Are Already Whole
We believe in honoring all parts of yourself: The Physical, Emotional, Mental, Relational, and Spiritual. We call this the WHOLE-istic self and believe that tending to all five components is crucial to create meaning and wholeness within.
The Answers Are Within
We believe there is no external fix like a secret juice, diet, book, or guru that has the answers. The Magic is simply inside you. By connecting to your WHOLE-istic self, you can find, listen to, and trust the messages each part offers you.
Gentleness Is KeyÂ
We believe in taking a softer approach to developing a relationship with yourself; one that does not involve harsh pep talks or denying your feelings. Our approach does not deny any parts of who you are; instead it radically embraces them.
Caring For vs. Curing Of
We believe that healing does not mean “curing” or making perfect. Life will not be trouble-free or without its moments of darkness. Healing is the process of learning how to care for who you are now so you can navigate through all of life's ups and downs.Â
👩🏼‍🎓M.A. Certified Coaches
We both hold a Master's degree in Soul Care from an accredited private University (since 2007), and are certified Spiritual Directors.
👋🏽19 Years Out of Evangelicalism
Nearly two decades have passed since we've left the Church, giving us ample time and space to address our religious programming and rebuild our lives.
🫱🏼‍🫲🏽 We are clinically trained for this
It's an honor for us to walk with you on this journey.
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The Big Book List
Do you have a good book recommendation for that? The answer is always YES—and our list is long and ever growing). Access our virtural library of our favorite book recs (and more).
Get Our Playlist
We thoughtfully picked over 30 of the best songs that speak to the messy, profound, and resilient experience of leaving high demand religion. Go grab your headphones and start listening!
